We have all often wondered if there really is a difference between making love or having sex. Some say it's one and the same thing, and others say the opposite. In this article, we will try to show that there is a difference between the two. In short, we will show you how to make love and what to consider when someone asks you to have sex.
What is the difference between sex and love after all?
We are aware that we cannot answer in a single article questions that have crushed the minds of philosophers for centuries. However, applying a reductionist filter to everything that means love and sex, we could say that it is exactly the difference between a biological imperative and a need associated with an evolutionary brain process.
Specifically, sex is the biological need for copulation. In the animal kingdom, the male will court the female for a specific purpose - to carry the genes further. Usually, the male will choose the female based on well-established criteria such as belly size, height, weight and number of suitors.
The purpose of sex is always clear and pragmatic - whether it is impregnation or solving an inner tension related to a hormonal imbalance. In a word, drive.
Does any of the things mentioned above resemble everything I knew, heard, saw, or read about making love? Of course not. Making love is a complex act and, for the most part, is related to mental and emotional processes that we do not yet know.
We don't know what draws us to the other. Maybe the way he behaves, the way his dimples stand out when he smiles or the passionate way he talks about what defines him.
They can all be together or none at all. The only thing that is certain is that people feel the need to make love, perhaps to express, beyond words, what they feel for each other.
Nothing is practiced in love. Simply and, in spite of all things, you feel the need to chain the one next to you in your arms and show them, without telling him that you love him.
Doctors claim that love is a chemical reaction, without any spiritual foundation. It could be that too. When two people fall in love, a chemical imbalance occurs inside the brain. From this point of view, love is a stroke, but one that changes both partners.
We cannot claim that men choose their partners based on how capable they are of making them strong and healthy children. At least not on a conscious level (reminiscent of the animal period). People make love because they are attracted to each other. Because they want to be discovered or rediscovered.
Making love has no purpose, such as the biological need for procreation. It means showing the other person how much it matters to you and that you feel good and safe with him or her.
Perhaps this question will never have a convincing answer. Or maybe that answer is superfluous. What we need to know is that in most relationships, people do not have sex, but love. Even that sexual drive that seems illogical stems from the need to get even closer to a person for whom you already have strong feelings.
As you can see, it is very difficult to answer this question. However, in order to draw a pertinent conclusion, we could argue that sex and love are differentiated by finality - one related to instinct and the other to unexpected mental and spiritual resources.