What should a relationship look like to move on?
-First of all it should be an awake relationship. In which he doesn't lie on his ear that he will always be forgiven, and she doesn't lay on cookies, candy and chips endlessly. A relationship in which there is no sleep. She's aware that she's not allowed to change sizes unless she's given birth, and even then, after she's done nursing, I say it's time to look at the before pictures. He, at the same time, has to remind her every time that she is a woman. A man lazy in deeds and gestures will make a woman lazy, who will no longer have anyone to be a woman for. When we stay at home alone during the day, we allow ourselves to stay in those tired tights stained with nail polish, with unruly hair and T-shirts with traces of paint or with ruined eyebrows. A woman is a woman for men, not for herself, that's witchcraft. For men and for the other women who might pay attention to her man. I don't want to imagine a world of only women, we would probably be a collection of bored monkeys, without envy, without competition, in which we would look for each other's fluff. You have seen the woman when she leaves a relationship that tears the living room in two, changes her clothes, changes her look, changes her walk. Do you think he's doing it for her? No, she does it for potential males and their army of fans. Eh, he mustn't let her forget these things. And how does he do it? By gestures so beautiful that she would feel foolish to be anything other than the most beautiful woman in his world.
To remind her how it feels to be admired, and instead of making her walk with her head in the ground for fear that another might steal it from her, he should nudge her from behind to be the most beautiful, with her forehead up and the wicked smile at the corner of her mouth as she holds his hand. To let her parade in front of other men, because often the fact that others turn their heads after us makes us even more women for our man. To trust her to do whatever she wants, because she can, and because he's there to subtly hold her arm in case she stumbles. A woman will stop being a woman when her man stops making her feel beautiful. And when will a woman stop feeling beautiful next to a man? When he falls asleep in a relationship, rest assured that she will be there tomorrow.
Second, I think spontaneity should never be lacking. He should keep the madness he had when he was 20, do things for her, surprise her. To have that sound on a Monday, when the world is angry with life, to tell him: see that in two hours I want to show you something in X place, be ready. She doesn't even have to take her to Paris, she can take her to her grandmother in the country, if there is a bouquet of flowers and a sincere note waiting for her at the end of the yard. He can also take her to a hill in the desert, if he makes her laugh from ear to ear there. Get muddy, get dirty, make her laugh and forget. People should not forget to laugh in a relationship, even when there are problems. Women have some innate abilities that they often forget. Me, the woman was born with some capacities to restore the good, with diplomacy, tact and that pleasant cunning with which she can spin the man on her fingers. And not with the purpose of manipulating him in a bad way, with the purpose of being good for them. To add a little intrigue, but not to turn it into a scandal. Infuse some mystery, but not be wild. Show her a little jealousy, but not be possessive. The woman knows how, but she forgets when she no longer feels like a woman and is busy gathering her confidence from the ground.A relationship is like a block. You start with the ground floor, then you build another floor and so on up to the attic. The man is the engineer, the woman is the interior designer, who comes up with the details. But an engineer is needed to create that corner, where she comes and places the vase in that special shade that the engineer doesn't know, and a designer is needed so that block doesn't look like a museum, but like a home. She doesn't know how to do what he does, he doesn't know how to do what she does, but they do a good job of not getting in each other's way. They do a good job as long as they trust each other, as long as they encourage each other and don't forget to laugh. And something else important, when everyone remembers to retire from time to time. When they don't forget that it's important for everyone to have their time with themselves, otherwise a chronic affective fatigue sets in and the moment they've reached 2 in 1, they won't know who they are anymore. All fools fall in love, in a relationship you always build and it's ok to take a breather with your friends, otherwise claustrophobia sets in, and one of them leaves completely.
It's like in traffic, if you don't give priority, you risk getting total damage. And just like in traffic, as a participant in a relationship, if you fall asleep there is a risk of going off the road, sometimes even of your relationship dying. And then, the years of license become just a detail, insignificant, moreover, at the moment of impact.
